Last night began, or should I say knowingly began, our transition into a "triad" or "trinogamy" relationship.
For years I have known hat this is the type of relationship I wanted, and probably needed, to be in. The reality of it happening brought a group of mixed emotions. However, none that I was incapable of dealing with.
For a little over 6 months D and I have had a truly open relationship and then marriage. He had only had sex with one other person during this time and I was ok with that. She was someone who was my complete opposite and someone I was not really attracted to. There were times, despite not being attracted to her, that I thought about making it into a triad relationship, however for one reason or another it just never ended up happening.
Looking back at it, I can honestly say that I am very happy that it never turned into that. I feel like it would've somehow tainted what we now have as being less special.
So onto the current relationship story. I had been attracted to C when I first met her two years ago, when she was an intern where I work. I never knew she was bi-sexual while she was here and she was in a committed relationship that she eventually went home to. When she left to home I was the one who wanted to take her to the airport. I knew it would be hard, but I wanted to have the last goodbye with her alone. So I dropped her off at the airport and cried the whole way home.
Upon doing this I knew I was sad because I felt like I was watching a friend leave, who I was sure was never coming back. This was someone who would make my lunch time enjoyable and sometime made the days bearable.
So she went back home to her boyfriend and her normal life. I could tell during our brief chats, emails, and Facebook musings that she was not completely happy, but was happy to have the love and support of her amazing friends as well as some opportunities that were not available here.
Whenever our place was in a transitional phase at work, we would give her a call and offer her a full time job to come back to. She said no on many occasions, because there was always something that was keeping her there: a job, her boyfriend, her boyfriend's sick dad, her mom, or Lady Gaga tickets. :)
In the midst of all this, I was told by a co-worker that she was, in fact, bi-sexual and she actually confirmed it by saying that her first sexual experience was with a woman.
In almost every conversation we had after that, I would joke about her moving her and being my "sister wife." I had not heard anything about a triad or trinogamy type of relationship. I was joking of course, but there was a part of me that was always serious. I just never really thought it would actually happen, ever.
So long story short, our company was in another transitional phase, and I did my requisite call to C to give her, yet another job offer. She said she needed to think about it. Later that day we talked on the phone for 3 hours and it just made me miss her all the more than I already did.
A few days later I get a call back from her saying that she was in! I was beside myself with joy. I offered her my spare room and said I would see her in 3 months.
In the meantime, D and I continued preparation for our wedding, had his whole family visit, got married, and set into life as a newly married couple.
Casey arrived less than a month later and was newly in lust/like with a co-worker she had just left back at home. I was excited for her, as any friend would be. He seemed to share a lot in common with her and she seemed to just love their mutual appreciation for music, plus the sex was pretty great. Aside from the adjustment of missing this new relationship, she settled in pretty good with her new like and her place as our much-liked new roommate.
She fit into our family within the first week of being there. We enjoyed dinner together, beach days, and lazy days at home. White she & I enjoyed movies and TV shows together, her & D enjoyed outdoor adventures. She seemed to perfectly fill slots in each of our lives that we had not been able to fill for each other.
Things went along in a strictly platonic way like this for just under 2 months. Then after a few Tequila shots with D, C and him enjoyed each other in the jacuzzi and later in her bed. I enjoyed the lust filled sounds coming from the bedroom that she was making.
So it was decided>C & D were not boyfriend and girlfriend. This was wonderful news to me! I love D with all my hear and I adored C, so it was a perfect match as far as I was concerned.
I was honestly very jealous, more just sad actually, because I realized that I was missing something that I very much needed and wanted>a sexual relationship with a woman. Since being with D, for almost 4 years now, I had not had any sexual relationship with a woman.
D's new blossoming relationship with C made me realize how much I wanted, no needed, to explore my own sexuality with another woman. I knew I was physically and emotionally attracted to C, but did not think she felt the same way.
A few days went by and I figured "what the hell" I needed to tell her how I felt because I didn't want this potentially incredible relationship to pass me by.
So a few flirty text messages, a few shots of Tequila, a short time in the jacuzzi, and D's much needed prompting later and C & I embarked on our first sexual encounter together. We had some very hot play in the jacuzzi then proceeded to enjoy some TV together which was then followed by one of the hottest sexual experiences I have ever had.
Welcome to a triad/trinogamist relationship...
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